Yes of course! If you clicked on this article hoping to find magic words to make someone instantly fall in love with you or some kind of love spell to cast on that not-so-interested guy/man or girl/woman, I’m sorry to disappoint you. your.
I’m old school at this. You can’t rush love. No, you just have to wait. Love is not easy. It is a game of give and take. You have to trust, give it time.
But how long does it take for someone to fall in love? And at what point do you say, “OMG! I can’t believe this is happening to me!”
Personally, I don’t think any “love experts” can tell you with 100% certainty how long it will take someone to fall in love. If someone tells you that he knows exactly how to make someone love you forever in 30 or even 90 minutes, get a hint. It’s Kool-Aid!
There is no magic number of minutes, weeks, months or years when people fall in love. If we are talking about attraction based on sexual chemistry, then scientists claim that it takes only 8.2 seconds for a man to “fall head over heels in love”; and a woman 15 seconds to decide if she wants to fall in love or not.
Explain why I fell in love twice today: at the supermarket! One of the men asked me to marry him after only 60 seconds of meeting me. [O! Please. Don’t get any ideas, I am kidding. This woman is taken!]
The point I’m trying to make here is that we fell in love with someone we’ve known for a while. The process of “falling in love” happens in stages for most of us (with the exception of the emotionally immature or sick who fall in love with just about anyone, and too quickly).
The first stage of falling in love is the one I just talked about above; one based on sexual chemistry. Keep in mind that “sexual” isn’t necessarily about “sex,” but about the energy that drives sexual attraction. The second stage is when we realize how unique and special the person is; and the third is when we have convinced ourselves that we are happier and more fulfilled with that person in our lives.
Most men stay too long (and some even get stuck) in the first stage of falling in love, while women tend to merge stages two and three into one, making it seem like women fall in love in only two stages. . I guess the biological clock has something to do with it.
But even if no one can say with 100% certainty how long it will take someone to fall in love, there are words and other signs that tell you that a man or woman is falling in love with you.
Most people think that when the person says those three magic words “I love you”, then you know for sure that they are in love. I wrote an article called “I Love You” – How Soon Is Too Soon?” and what I said in summary is that each man or woman has their own different time to say “I love you” to a new person, while others prefer wait a while to be 150% sure that they really love the person they’re saying these words to. And for some people saying “I love you” is like saying “thank you” or “goodbye”. “It doesn’t always mean someone is falling in love or in love with you.
I’ve asked some of my clients to tell me when it’s “they knew for sure” and here are some of their responses.
1. I knew it when we started calling each other every day. But more than that, I could hear in her voice that I was the one she wanted to share all her news with first.
2. We were talking about some areas where we feel incredibly separate. She looked at me and said, “I’m so afraid our relationship won’t work out or go any further. I don’t want to lose you!”
3. When D left some toiletries at my house, I had an “aha” moment. At the time I didn’t know where we stood, it was just a sign to me that things were getting a little more serious.
4. I was very interested in her, but she didn’t tell me the time of day. I felt like she was out of my league. Four years later, we were hanging out with some friends we had both known since our sophomore year. They started to make fun of us, they said that we always looked like a couple. She leaned down and kissed me on the lips. He was very passionate. I knew it there and then. She is a shy person by nature, she would never have done it if she didn’t love me.
5. I honestly don’t know when I knew for sure. Mr. knew he had a past before we met. Every man who has ever loved me, including my father, abused and abandoned me. M. goes out of his way to make sure that he will never leave me. And I believe him with all my heart.
6. We didn’t have big schedules and neither of us was in a hurry to get our relationship anywhere. We focused a lot on getting to know each other, spending time together and talking. One day we both looked at each other and we knew. It’s like when you open the door and you know you’re home.
7. It was when he told me that he had reserved space for my things in his closet. That told me that he felt comfortable sharing his space with me.
8. Valentine’s Day. I asked him if there was anything he wanted to say or hear that wasn’t being said. She said “I love you”. I said “I love you more”. Neither of us had said that to the other and we had been together for over two years.
Simply put, there is no single time frame for someone to fall in love. Some people “know” that the person is right for them as soon as they see that person (love at first sight). Some of these men and women who “fell in love at first sight” report feeling an inexplicable sense of having met the person before (soul mates). That knowledge of thinking/feeling is then confirmed with more information gathered after knowing the person for some time.
It would be great if we were all so lucky that someone fell in love with us at first sight, but that doesn’t happen to the vast majority of people in this world. For the rest of us, you can’t rush love. Love takes time. How long? No one can say for sure. All you can do is nurture the feeling of attraction and help the other person go through the stages of falling in love. How soon they can do it depends on the individual, and the problems of him!