1. throw up on god. Psalms 142. The Bible says to get out of your complaint goodbye. Tell Him all your hurts, your pains, your anger, your hate, your sorrow, whatever is haunting your thoughts and emotions. Buried feelings never die; They always come back to haunt you. So get them out of your system and download yourself from God. This is the easy part. The key is, don’t hold anything back. You do this, not for God’s sake, but for your own. He knows what’s up, but you have to download it if you want victory. He can’t do that for you.
2. Confess known sin. 1 John 1:9. When we have been treated unfairly, we feel that we have nothing to confess. We excuse ourselves from responsibility. But we are responsible for the emotions that the pain has caused us and for the distrust that it has caused us. Whatever you spewed on God in #1, acknowledge the negative emotions that the pain caused you and confess them. Hate, bitterness, jealousy, anger, cynicism, mistrust, skepticism, worry, anxiety, depression, disbelief, none of those emotions come from God. They are negative emotions that torment our hearts. Don’t justify them! Let them go!
3. Forgive. The offender, God, oneself, others. Mate. 18:21, 22. Forgiveness is an act of the will. It is a decision, not a feeling. Forgiveness does not exempt the other person from receiving justice, it simply frees you from the burden of demanding justice yourself and allows God to deal with them in his way, in his time. “Vengeance is mine, meet the Lord, and I Will to pay.” Believe him and let him go!
4. Erase the Pain. 51:10. This is the most difficult step because there is a feeling that if we ask God to erase the pain, we will never be vindicated for the way we have been treated. If you forgive externally but internally continue to harbor negative emotions, you may have forgiven the offender but do not trust God to vindicate you. You are choosing to become your own defense attorney and keep the evidence so you can remind God that He has not yet delivered. This is wrong and is evidence of a lack of trust. It is essential that you detach yourself from the evidence and ask God to erase the pain from memory. Ask him not to let your mind play it back instantly or associate it again with other similar mistakes.
5. Access the Fruit of the Spirit. Gallon. 5:22, 23. There are 9 fruits of God’s Holy Spirit that you have access to anytime you need them. the Bible says Against such things there is no law. In other words, ask and He will give, no strings attached. Any one of those 9 fruits will combat whatever negative emotions you are dealing with. You don’t have to fight this battle alone! me I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. If you are fighting hate, ask for love, the love that Jesus would have if he were in your place. If you are fighting anxiety, ask for peace, the peace that Jesus would have if he were in your place. If you are fighting anger, ask for meekness, the meekness that Jesus would have if he were in his place. This is the most important step. Don’t do the other 4 and don’t do this one!
6. Ask for grace to obey the revealed will of God. ROM. 16:20 Ask God for grace because the battle is going to return and you must be prepared. Satan never goes down without a fight. When the test comes, there will be two options, one good and one bad. Make the right choice! God will give you a command either from His Word, from a godly teacher, or from a man of God. Don’t guess the command. Obey! Just do it even if it doesn’t make sense. Trust the orders. The moment you choose to obey, you will feel God fill your soul with the power of the Holy Spirit, enabling you to fulfill the command. The fullness will not come until you have made the decision to obey.

It is vital that you repeat this prayer formula as often as you struggle with pain, grief, and negative thoughts or emotions. Some of us have a lot of junk buried and relief is not going to happen in one prayer session. We have to press delete those computer images in our minds every time they appear on the screen. Therefore, every time they appear, deal with them and eventually they won’t be there anymore.

“Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.”

2 Corinthians 10:5

The inability to reconcile intense pain with unconditional love = brain fog.

Mental confusion = makes us question the goodness of God and makes us willing to accept the perversion of truth as an acceptable response to pain.

The acceptance of perversion (falsity disguised as truth) causes a gap in our spirit.

A broken or broken spirit is a very real wound of the heart.

To defend ourselves from more pain, we, the victims, put up a wall of distrust (a bandage to protect the wound from more pain).

The problem is: the infection sets in in a wound that has not been cleaned of germs; the bandage keeps out the good while keeping out the evil germ of disease.

Sickness that sets in = Fear of trusting God or anyone else forever.

The fear of trusting opens us to the torments of the soul (negative emotions of the heart that may not be seen but are felt and suffered by the victim).

“God has not given us a spirit of cowardice, but of power, love and self-control.”

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has torment. He who fears is not perfected in love.” 1 John 4:18

Torments of the soul = the need for a comforter to ease the torment.

Satan gives false comfort behaviors that can temporarily relieve the torment but never eliminate it; as the torment returns, the need for comfort grows stronger.

False comfort behaviors = always lead to death

Jesus said that if he left, he would send us a Comforter who would guide us into all Truth. Then he said, “You will know the Truth and the Truth will set you free.” The implication here is that one must trust his promises, not simply be aware of them. Freedom from addictive behaviors can only come when obedience to the Truth occurs.