There are many reasons for an adult to be stupid. This article will focus on a particular type of person who is considered stupid due to their irresponsibility, forgetfulness, incompetence, and anything similar to what you might identify as a five year old.

The question I’ve been thinking about is why can’t a reasonably intelligent adult, i.e. someone capable of supporting himself and living independently, be trusted to do the simplest things and forget little instructions or details, i.e. constantly clumsy.

How can someone be able to work on a computer, perform technical tasks, have a reasonably intelligent conversation, and yet repeatedly forget simple tasks or details in instructions?

Of course, this is not a universal explanation that covers all humans who are like this, but I think it covers many. Only you can determine if you, or someone you know, would fit this classification and then with what we will say here, you can help improve their apparent intelligence.

Yes, I am quite rude and direct in my use of the word ‘stupid’, but I only verbalize what everyone else thinks.

If you’ve ever owned or managed a retail store, or been a customer, you know what I’m talking about when you have the frustrating luck of dealing with someone who is so stupid their mouths drop in disbelief.

And now that we’ve established the type of person we’re talking about, let’s move on to explaining why they can be so stupid at times. Use this information as a guide to test my theory with each of these people you interact with, or to review your own actions if you accept that you are or are seen as stupid.

When this person is told to do the simplest things, for example, to tie his shoelaces, he tends to get angry. They feel insulted because, as adults, they are told the simplest things that they should be able to do for themselves. It could be that you ask that person to run a simple errand for you, and after telling them three times, you also write down the instructions, like telling the laundry to use unscented soap instead of the standard strong perfume.

They get upset and feel insulted, undermined and basically defend themselves by saying that they are not children and that they can remember it without needing a note.

The end result, as many of you may have experienced, is highly scented garments. “I told you three times, I wrote it on the paper with the cloths, how could you go wrong with something so simple!”

My discovery is; because they felt so insulted and felt that you are treating them like a five-year-old idiot, that their mind turns off and they don’t listen to instructions or forget in defiance. Therefore, they impose their opinion on his stupidity.

When you tell a five year old to take something and he refuses, then you say; “I’m not going to let you have it.” And of course, the child immediately demands to have it.

When you tell one of these ‘adults’ to do something they take as an insulting instruction that implies they are stupid, their mind revolts and says; “I do not want it”. referring to the instructions. And because he’s been rejected as a child, it never gets to his mind, and you know the results.

They screw up, they look and are indeed stupid, and they both know it. Their self-esteem drops to an even lower level and they maintain their reputation for being stupid and irresponsible.

Now let’s work to find a solution.

Nobody can do anything but the person who has the problem. The first step is for the stupid to accept that he really is as stupid and childish as a five-year-old. By refusing to accept that this is his real level of maturity with his rebellious nature to anything perceived as an insult, they can never change. It is a rejection of reality instead of living in a self-lie that always makes things worse.

After this first step, the normal human reaction is that they will reject this obvious truth by listing all the things they can do well, thus trying to show that they are not so stupid.

A good action does not eliminate a bad one. Do not do this. Just accept the bad action without diverting your attention to a good one so that you can ignore the bad one.

We return to the first step of the total acceptance of immaturity and childish character regardless of physical age.

The proof is that you have a reputation due to your consistent actions. So face it, you’re stupid.

Next, you must refrain from responding verbally or internally, and when you feel insulted, remember that despite your wish or opinion that you are intelligent, the evidence of other people’s opinion of you is more valid. If 10 people think you’re irresponsible, and you or maybe 2 people think you’re great, the majority vote is probably correct.

Remind yourself of this whenever you feel like you are being insulted, undermined, or ridiculed for being treated like an immature child.

This will naturally make you feel hopeless, inferior, and will destroy any threads of self-esteem you have and trigger an endless stream of self-loathing. Counter this with the hope and joy of knowing that if you finally accept the problem as it is, there is a clear and simple path to conquering this problem and transforming your mind into a reasonably intelligent and responsible person.

And that is really all that is needed. The acceptance of the problem, the acceptance of the cause of the problem and the willingness to stop acting like a child and refusing to accept that you are just stupid. There is nothing wrong with that, because the cause of your stupidity is your refusal to be treated at the level at which you behave.

This will open your mind to accept every simple instruction as it is given to you because you will accept that you deserve to be treated that way since you forget the simplest things, and then you will probably do things right because you will have an open mind and pay more attention. . Eventually, your reputation will change to a person who does what they are told flawlessly, and you will finally be able to grow.