Counseling is a process in which an individual or a group of people get advice, guidance, explanations, and sometimes even therapy. Marriage counseling is a process in which a couple about to get married receives counseling (in this case, the counseling does not include any type of therapy). Many couples believe that premarital counseling is like the talk given by the elderly, mostly parents (of the bride or groom) before marriage. But, premarital counseling is more than these aspects.

How does marriage counseling help couples?

This counseling is done so that couples can educate themselves and learn the skills that will be required to lead a healthy marriage. A healthy marriage is the broadest perspective, but the finer nuances are the fragments that help in many other fields as well.

A relationship is built on levels of communication; the state of a relationship will depend on how good the level of communication is between the parties involved (the couple). Premarital counseling will help interested persons to identify many aspects as follows:

– Fears, desires, beliefs.

– Values, dreams, needs

– Problems and effects

– Even finer aspects can be identified that have never been discussed

Next in line is communication related to these topics. Later, counseling helps the couple to anticipate the challenges that may arise due to the previous problems and the perspective of the people involved. In short, premarital counseling helps a couple prepare to deal with conflicts that may or may not explode after marriage.

The world has accepted the fact that relationships and marriages fail. In fact, failure is so high that there is no peer pressure on a couple when they decide to get married.

There are many people who find it difficult to talk about problems with their partners, instead easily rushing in front of others (counselors in this context). Also, there is a saying: small problem, small tension, big problem, big tension; but the problem is that people can’t tell rocks from mountains. Premarital counseling helps a couple differentiate between significant and non-significant problems.

Love is the ignorance that time will remain like this, forever. Love is best enjoyed during those initial days. Back to reality, over time, there will be certain issues that creep into every relationship on a constant basis. Every relationship goes through these black, white, and gray patches, but the difference is how people react. Premarital counseling, in fact, prepares a couple for these days.

The other side

The problem many couples face is that only one of them is interested in getting pre-marital counseling. In many cases, both spouses are unaware of or simply not interested in premarital counseling (some couples get married in the blink of an eye, so they don’t have time for marriage counselling).

Therefore, the best step forward is to talk to your partner about the process and then take the next step. Lastly, one thing to remember is that talking and advising will always solve more problems than keeping quiet and assuming things.