Let’s talk about something that seems to be very common in the network marketing industry but is rarely talked about.
Are you cheating on your spouse with network marketing?
Network marketing can put a lot of stress and strain on a marriage. It can be the root of much unspoken resentment and tension, sometimes leading to the ultimate demise of a relationship. Here are some personal tips and suggestions on how to grow a successful network marketing business while maintaining the integrity of your marriage and family!
Here is an actual note my husband wrote me three months after I joined my new company.
Ever since he started his new business, I feel like he has divorced me and married his network marketing business.
We don’t spend time together, you’re always away and when you’re here you’re on the phone, doing an exhibition or on the internet. I feel like you’ve left me alone, and it’s not fun to be around you because you only talk about your business. If you put as much time and effort into me and your marriage as you put into your business, I’d be the happiest man in the world.
Although I may not understand the industry or how much time and effort it takes to do it, I know that it is ruining our marriage and our friendship and that something has to change. Please stop putting me in the background and remember that I am your first love.
Your abandoned husband!
As network marketers, we can be screwing up our relationships with our wives, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends, or significant others and not even realize it. When I first read your letter, I was like “What the hell are you talking about, this is my job, I’m trying to make money for our family so that we (you and I) can have the flexibility to do what we want when we want. And you’re complaining? – you had a problem when I was working 50+ hours a week as my corporate job.
After having an honest conversation with my husband, I realized that even though I thought I was doing something good for our family, I was neglecting what made us happy as husband and wife and as best friends.
Where does the voltage come from?
What I saw as relentless passion and focused determination to learn my business and build a successful empire, he saw as obsessive madness. I became that wife that you had to beg to go to bed with, had to sneak off the computer or bribe to be able to do anything that wasn’t related to building my business.
Not that I wanted to spend more time on my computer researching and reading about what the top earners were doing, trying to find the magic wand that would take my business to the next level. Not that I loved prospecting any more than I loved talking to my husband. Not that I wanted to hang out with my clients or prospects instead of having a date night and cuddling up with the man I loved. He was doing what he was doing because he was Sick and tired of being sick and tired and MLM was my way of getting to where I wanted my family to be. MLM would establish us FREE!
So, after listening to my husband’s feelings, it was time for a heart-to-heart, and in an effort to communicate and resolve our “issues,” here are a few suggestions I recommend you implement right away if you want your marriage to come back. to love. train.
1. Agree – You and your spouse should be on the same page about your reasons for joining and your vision for your business and family. Determining with your spouse a common vision of what you want to achieve and being in complete agreement on the direction you want to take as a family is of the utmost importance. Enrolling against your spouse’s knowledge is an absolute no-no and is considered selfish and inconsiderate. If your spouse is not supportive, he may be fighting an uphill battle, making it difficult for him to succeed. Give your spouse a clear understanding of why they signed up so they have the full story and all the facts so they can make an appropriate and justified decision in support of your business.
2. Create a time for business and a time for family – There should always be a clear schedule established for business and family time. Together determine blocks of time that are appropriate for work-related activities and blocks of time for family activities, romance, church, etc. Once you’ve agreed on the schedule, stick to it and, if an adjustment needs to be made, discuss it and get your spouse’s approval first before committing to doing anything that wasn’t in line with the schedule so there are no surprises. Nothing is more important than your family, not your business, not your sponsor or upline, not a storefront, nothing! Learn to say “no” or “I’m not available right now, can we reschedule?” Be sure to turn off your phone during family time too, it won’t kill you if a call goes to voicemail. I promise!
3. Set “Office Hour” – No one needs to be recruiting, prospecting, holding meetings or sitting in front of the computer all hours of the day and night. Again, agree on how many hours a week are acceptable to spend on your business.
4. Prioritize your day – Know the night before what you have to do for the next day. It will help you focus on what is important and you will be able to perform your tasks efficiently and productively. Establish a marketing plan and routine, outlining your activities, so you’re not mindlessly working all day and discovering you really didn’t accomplish much because you weren’t organized and focused. If you have a set time to make calls, prospecting, training, personal development, etc, etc. marked on your calendar, you will find that your day will be much calmer and you will not be exhausted at the end of the day or, better yet, when family time arrives.
5. Communicate your failures and your successes – Many times, the best ideas come from our spouses. Whether they totally agree or not, share your trials and triumphs with them. Communicating with them lets them know that you care about what they think and value their opinions and suggestions. By including your spouse in your business, you will not only gain a better understanding of the industry, but you will begin to realize how hard and committed you are to making it successful.
Do everything you can to get your spouse on your side. We hope these simple suggestions will help you, your spouse, and your business stay on the same page so that not only your financial freedom can flourish, but your marriage and family as well.
What I didn’t share with you was my husband’s PS in his letter. He said:
“Never give up on your dreams” Your passion is what I love about you… just make sure you share it with me a little more often!
My husband is my best friend and my greatest support. With that said, spouses, support the passions, visions and dreams of your partners and MLMers never forget your first love. Success is nothing if you have no one to share it with!